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Bridezillas: Fact or Fiction?

3 May, 2015 - 06:55pm by - First Lady | 20 Comments

Article by BR Kellie

‘Tis a beast that lurks in the shadows of even the kindest soul. Hiding until such a day that a ring is placed upon a certain finger. A ring that would lead to two hearts being bound together, a ring that would release the monster within’.

Perhaps I’m being dramatic, but we’ve all heard the term ‘Bridezilla’, and perhaps some of us have come into contact with one. None more so than those who work closely with the bride; the planners, the makeup artists, the hair stylists, the bridesmaids. But surely the Bridezilla isn’t all that bad? Surely stories are embellished for the sake of a good tale. Or perhaps, they’re not….

An unnamed makeup artist confided in a bride she was working on about a bride(zilla) who’d had her mother and bridal party in tears on her wedding day. Nothing was as perfect as she’d hoped for, nothing was right, and if she wasn’t going to be happy apparently neither was anyone else around her. So much for it being the happiest day of her life…

Of course then there are the brides who think makeup artists are also magicians, and that with a swipe of a blusher brush they will look exactly like Angelina/Scarlett/Giselle rather than an enhanced version of themselves. Brides who then lose the plot when they realise that because of reasons outside of their control - aka the face their parent’s genetics blessed them with - it’s never going to happen.

An anonymous wedding planner relates a story of a bride going nuclear when she had to gently explain to her that the shade of pink she wanted for her roses quite simply did not exist. Shade-stress seems to be quite a theme, with one future Mrs bursting into tears and throwing a tantrum when she couldn’t make a decision over which shade of olive table runner she wanted – when they were all virtually identical.

Just when you think it can’t get any uglier – there’s the story of the Bridezilla who insisted her attendants paid for the extraordinarily expensive dresses she insisted they were to wear on her big day. However she’s got nothing on the bride-to-be who wanted her bridesmaid to dye her blonde hair brunette so she’d match her other bridesmaids in the photos. And do we even talk about the one who demanded her best friend lose weight to fit in with the other girls?

Of course, it would be unfair of me to spill Bridezilla secrets without sharing my own.  I did pride myself on being a rather mild mannered bride, however I had my moment. Like many it was on the day of my wedding. My hairdresser arrived, knowing the look I was after having practiced it on me weeks before. And yet, the beast reared its head and I turned to her and said…’I’m really sorry, but I’ve changed my mind, may I please have this hair style now?’… in my meekest most apologetic voice. She took a look at my new photo, a simple bun off to the side, with twists through my hair. She then no doubt thought back to the curled monstrosity I’d had my heart set on and said ‘yes’. I do believe we both breathed a sigh of relief that day, and I’m glad for her sake that she agreed, for the beast was ready to pounce.

So tell me, have you had Bridezilla moments that you’re brave enough to share? Do you believe in ‘Brides Day-Brides Way’? Would you even dream of behaving in such a way, or do you think their really is a beast lurking, just waiting for someone to put a ring on it so it can rear its tiaraed head?

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8th May, 2015

I've been a bridesmaid 7 (yes 7 times.... Maid of honour three of those times) and an 8th on the way!! I have been super lucky with my brides no bridezilla moments (phew) but the stress changes them so I think every bride is allowed a mini melt down once right? Right?? Ok so maybe I have been witness to a few bridezilla moments ;)

6th May, 2015

These stories made me laugh. I'm engaged and will probably get married next year sometime. I want just a quiet, intimate wedding in waiheke- no bridezilla moments from me!

5th May, 2015

Great article hun :-) I've had the privilege of being a bridesmaid's and a maid of honor. Neither brides were bridezillas thank goodness hehehe I do imagine how stressful planning a wedding can be yet I find bridezillas entertaining in a non offensive way ;-)

4th May, 2015

Urghh it's all unnecessarily stressful! yep bridezilla's exist - combination of nerves and being a spoilt princess hahaha I was totally lovely on my wedding day ( aside from ..um...argument with my Mum before I got to the church and then argument with my husband on the way out of the church..). I'm divorced now.

4th May, 2015

I honestly haven't given any wedding I may have specific plans. But I do believe that it is the bride's special day and people should be willingly to go extra lengths to accommodate her but losing weight to fit a dress, dyeing you hair or buying very expensive dresses to be part of the bridal party is taking it a bit far.

4th May, 2015

I had three goals for my wedding 1) My guests to have a good time, 2) my husband and I to have a good time and 3) to make sure everyone walks away going "that was one of the most enjoyable weddings I've been to". All three goals were accomplished without fuss and stress. If you go in with a strict agenda, you don't have room to move when things don't go well. Let people do their job and allow you to glow as they do it.

4th May, 2015

I used to dream of getting married. Ten years in a long term relationship, I think I've given up hope.

4th May, 2015

I wasn't a Bridezilla, probably because everything was planned down to the last detail, but I could have had a Bridezilla moment when an uninvited guest turned up with some other guests, luckily another guest had cancelled at the last minute, so we had room at the tables for him.

4th May, 2015

I must say that I have watched the show on TV a few times hehe. They definitely do exist though - I just think that if arranging your wedding is causing so much grief maybe you should rethink everything, usually it's the cost that makes people a bit crazy - so have a smaller wedding maybe?? I know you have to have some stress organizing a wedding but it's supposed to be a happy and joyous occasion!

4th May, 2015

Ha ha yes I've meet one argh my sister eeeek big bridzilla but once the wedding was over she was back to normal whew

3rd May, 2015

When my daughter was getting ready for her graduation I think we needed to start a new term called Gradzilla. Wholly hell she was hideous. She would ask which clothes or hairstyle or nail polish or lipstick (the list went on....) and we learnt not to open out mouths after the second question as nothing was ever right!

God help us when she decides to get married, I think we will just give her money and she can elope so we escape with our sanity and/or lives in tact!

3rd May, 2015

I don't think I had many bridezilla moments. I'm good at staying cool calm and collected even if inside I'm freaking out.

3rd May, 2015

I love watching bridezilla-type shows, so many laughs! I'm yet to be on that path, but like most people I'd like to think reality and what's actually important (marriage as opposed to wedding) would stay in my mind.

3rd May, 2015

I'm engaged and am the opposite of Bridezilla ... at least for now. I want to be married but don't really want a wedding. I'm actually thinking I'll do my own makeup, I know what I like and feel relaxed when doing it so that has to be a good thing. I've been watching Bridezillas on Netflix, such a good tv show! (Great article Kellie :) )

3rd May, 2015

I just had my big day nearly 8 weeks ago and I was probably the opposite of a bridezilla - so laid back everyone was getting a bit annoyed I can see how things could get stressful and a bride could pop! I found the morning getting ready pretty slow going while everyone was being attended too I had to wait cos I was being left till last? I guess it worked and I left it too the experts to do the job and boy they didn't let me down! But any other bride could really have a tanty at that I believe. I love watching them on the movies thou so much entertainment lol. Although it is true emotions are at an all time high on the day weither you want them to be or not! :)

Imoshen
4th May, 2015

You know, make up isn't the most important thing to looking good on the day, the photographer is :). It is the photographer that will do the touching up and making your memories look great on "paper". Just have a good time!

tannygirl
4th May, 2015

haha...yeah there's the gradzilla that's pretty close to bridezilla.

MareeB
4th May, 2015

It's never too late Macs, start dropping some hints (ie hang a wedding dress on the back of your bedroom door...)

Macs
5th May, 2015

Thats a good idea Maree. I went to Michael hill and the salesmen there suggested I leave a brochure open on my partners draw with the type of ring I want circled lol

MareeB
4th May, 2015

I'm pretty sure if I ever get married again I'll be equally bad -I have ADD and have no patience with having to deal with details, and I can't stand people fussing around me..